‘That was it for me. I blocked her and ended our friendship’: Canadian teen keeps demanding nonstop support from her friend who moved to Korea, offering none in return, and pushing the friend to cut ties

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Etai Eshet • Editor
Oct 11, 2025 4:00 PM EDT

When you're a teenager, every friendship feels like it's going to last forever. These are the people who get every late-night text, every overshare, every tiny crisis blown up to full-scale soap opera. It feels like the universe shrinks down to your group chat and anyone falling out means the sky is actually falling. Most people swear these bonds are for life, like friendship is some kind of tattoo.

But most friendships at that age are more like scribbles in pencil. Sure, everything feels huge and dramatic, but time blurs faces and inside jokes into the background pretty quickly as soon as real life starts moving in faster. Suddenly, it's not only okay but completely normal that friends drift off, turn into a faded username or just stories you'll laugh about someday. As life picks up speed, the people who always needed you for their own drama end up on silent, and the emotional weight they brought loses all its hold. The friendships that stick are the ones that don't feel like a job. 

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  • Entitled friend won't stop bothering me about her problems and forces me to take her side. But acts selfishly when I need her support.

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  • I have a 16 year old friend who I've known for about four years from when I lived in Canada.
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  • We're both 16 now. I moved back to Korea about 2 years ago so l haven't really seen her since then.
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  • As time went by, we kind of ran out of things to talk about. These days I've been really busy studying because I'm preparing to take koreas university enterance exam, so I don't have much time to contact her.
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  • Even though I've been busy I still think about her a lot. Whenever studying gets hard I remind myself that I want to see her again someday and that gives me strength.
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  • But she started having issues with me. She told me I was lying about studying and just pretending to study while actually playing games.
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  • That really hurt me because I am working hard just for her. I'm trying to improve myself for both her and me so hearing things like "You don't even study" or "Why do you lie about studying?" made me so angry.
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  • How could she say that to someone who's genuinely studying for their future? On top of thag she talks to me like she's trying to teach me or prove me wrong all the time.
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  • Whenever I say something slightly off she literally asks Al if I'm wrong and then mocks me about it.
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  • That made me lose so much respect for her. Then there was the "catfish" thing. I rarely post selfies maybe once or twice a month on Instagram stories.
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  • One day she saw my photo and called me a catfish. Saying that I look totally different in real life.
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  • I was furious but I held it in and just left her on seen. She also got mad at me for not posting selfies on Snapchat anymore.
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  • I used to post my face for the snapchat streak but lately I just send random pictures like my wall, my figurines or some drawings because I don't feel like taking selfies every day.
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  • Then she got angry and said "Why don't you post your face anymore? You're pretty why not show it?" Like what?
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  • Whether I post my selfie or not is my choice. It's not something to get mad about.
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  • And honestly she treats me like her emotional trash can. Whenever she fights with her boyfriend, parents or friends she dumps everything on me.
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  • I can listen sometimes, of course, but it became too much. She always wanted me to take her side and agree with her even when she was clearly wrong.
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  • She'd say things like "Right? I'm not wrong right?" and basically force me to say yes.
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  • People have limits, and she never seems to notice. She dumps all her problems on me almost every day, and I always have to comfort and calm her down every time when she tells me her problems.
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  • If I didn't answer her calls she'd say I was avoiding her or being a bad friend.
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  • But when we did talk it'd last for 3 to 5 hours. I barely had time for myself or my studies because of that.
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  • When I said I needed to hang up she'd say "20 more minutes" and keep dragging it out.
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  • Sometimes it even lasted 10 hours. And if I ever tried to set up a boundary, she would give me attitude and make me feel bad for it.
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  • One time I told her I couldn't talk because my teeth were hurting. I'm wearing Invisalign but I hadn't worn it for 4 days and my teeth were really sore.
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  • I just said "I can't talk today my teeth hurt so much." Instead of showing any sympathy she immediately started talking about herself like "Oh I had two wisdom teeth removed once I just got 8 needles into my jaw bone and haven't been able to eat properly because they broke my teeth with a drill and pulled them out" and went on and on about how she went through surgery and how painful her experience was.
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  • It felt like my pain didn't even matter. After a while I started listening to her less NOT BECAUSE I DIDN'T CARE but because it was just emotionally draining.
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  • Then something happened. She sent a reel about advertise bait to one of her friends, and that friend said it looked fake.
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  • She started teasing that friend saying things like "You're wrong you don't know anything" the same way she'd treat me before.
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  • So I said gently “I kind of thought the same thing too. It might be a bait ad." Suddenly she got mad and said "Why are you taking her side?
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  • You never take mine. Then I won't take your side either." Recently she started badmouthing that same friend again and I couldn't take it anymore.
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  • So I said "You know in life people lose friends and make new ones. You just have to learn from it and move on.
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  • I don't think I can help with this anymore so please stop talking to me about her." She said "Okay I get it.
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  • If you ever have anything hard going on I wont listen to you too." But the very next day my hamster who I really really loved got very sick.
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  • She had cysts in her uterus and even after surgery she developed sepsis. She was dving.
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  • I told my friend that and she said "Oof you wasted your money on surgery." I was absolutely furious.
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  • I yelled at her "Are you insane? Why would you say something like that about my one and only pet, basically a member if my family?" I was crying because my hamster was d_ng and she replied "Just buy another hamster." and she said "it's a fricking hamster" I couldn't believe it how she talked to me like this.
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  • I asked why she'd say something so cruel and she said "Well you didn't take my side before either.
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  • Remember when you said that's just how life goes? I'm saying the same thing now." That was it for me.
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  • I blocked her and ended our friendship. Even after that she never apologized. I told her "What you're going through and what I'm going through are not the same.
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  • When someone loses a life even a small one what you should do is comfort them not mock them." But she still blamed me.
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  • So now I'm just left wondering was it really my fault for not listening to her problems all the time?
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  • I mean.. I know it's normal to listen to a friend sometimes but constantly hearing about someone else's personal struggles and private issues until I'm completely drained... this is very exhausting....
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  • Im posting this for my sister as she cant post yet. Shes going through a hard time and said that she needed some opinions on her situation.
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  • Thank you :)
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  • OP Delectatio12 TLDR: My sisters friend is always making sis take her side by lying or forcing her. This kept repeating until sis told her to stop complaining to sis about her problems. When our hamster d d the friend only talked about the hamster like a easily replaceable object instead of comforting sis. Eventually they ended their friendship and now my sis feels exhausted and needs opinions.
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  • Excellent_Ad1132 I made it through only a few paragraphs before I understood you don't understand what a friend is, because that is not a friend to you. Dump her and find a real friend.
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  • OP Delectatio12 thats a quick answer. I never knew it was this bad.
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  • OkExternal7904 OP, as i was reading this, it occurred to me that you should make a recording on some device that has you saying, "Uh- huh...uh-huh...uh-huh..." and just play it for your friend while pretending to listen. Then, carry on with studying. BTW, good luck with all the studying! I bet you'll do wonderfully on your exams.
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  • OP Delectatio12 Ill tell this to my sister she'll need all the help she needs
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  • Leavemebro That's not a friend, that's a parasite
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  • CloverCatWise she failed the "bare minimum empathy" test so bad omg
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  • CptJustice cut bait and walk away.
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  • ApriilSummers Your sister did the right thing. No one deserves to be treated like that, especially when they're grieving.
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  • TheQuarantinian This is what a toxic person looks like. If you ever unblock her, if you ever say hi, if you ever read a text message from her, if you initiate or receive any direct or indirect contact with her in any form you will be 100% to blame. She not only brings 0 benefit to your life, her contribution is a net negative. She is ask and a drain. Not only are you better off without her, but everybody in your life is as well because her negativity impacts them through you.
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  • Night-Crawler-720 She's got room in her life now for a real friend. This self-centered one was taking up too much time and just full of negative energy. Good riddance!
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  • bkwormtricia The person is selfish, caring only for herself. NOT a friend. Your sister should block her, stop listening to her.
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  • Everyone else just becomes a side character you vaguely remember, another person in the crowd scene, not the main plot. That’s the truth nobody tells you at sixteen: sometimes you’re carrying what’s just a cardboard cutout, not a lifelong companion.

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